Colour Coding: Creating Queer Bonds with Nail Art

**The following is a longer version of a femme flagging article I wrote for Shameless magazine. Check out the Shameless version, "Flag 'Em Down" (and another story of mine!) in the Alternative Beauty issue, Winter 2015.**  Through history, queer folks have had come up with creative ways to communicate their desires. In the 1970s, gay … Continue reading Colour Coding: Creating Queer Bonds with Nail Art

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Disposable Women: Some Thoughts on Bowie, My Dad, and Sexualizing Young Girls

I remember walking through the mall with my dad (age 55) and he made some comment to me about a girl in short shorts. The girl must have been about 17 and yet my dad saw no problem with his leering at her legs (and making a sexual comment about them to me, his daughter … Continue reading Disposable Women: Some Thoughts on Bowie, My Dad, and Sexualizing Young Girls

I Want a Comedy of Love: Yearning for Femme Healing, For a Soft Place to Rest

I'm tired of comedy that relies on making some specific person look stupid, gross, weird, other. I'm tired of your edgy, alienating sarcasm. I've never much cared to have a friend that makes "good-natured" digs at me, that tries to get a laugh at my expense. My sister once told me she hates watching The … Continue reading I Want a Comedy of Love: Yearning for Femme Healing, For a Soft Place to Rest

Can Straight Women Be Femme? Visibility and the Mainstreaming of Femme

Zooey Deschanel has been an unabashedly femme role model of mine for years. Exhibit A: I ripped a page out of a magazine, framed it, and hung it on my wall because it was emblazoned with her quote: “I want to be a fucking feminist and wear a fucking Peter Pan collar. So fucking what?” … Continue reading Can Straight Women Be Femme? Visibility and the Mainstreaming of Femme

Story of a Femme Hatchling: My Journey to “Femme”

I can’t remember when I first used the word femme, but I remember it being the first identity or label that actually felt like it fit. I was dating my first girlfriend and quickly figured out that using the word “bisexual” meant being dismissed, and using “lesbian” or “gay” and even “queer” made me feel … Continue reading Story of a Femme Hatchling: My Journey to “Femme”