I’ve been writing love letters to mosh pits since I was in high school. But this is not a love letter. There are few things I love more than thrashing around at shows with my friends. This feels like the whole point of having a body, the best part of being material. We all become new … Continue reading Boys to the Back: On the Subtleties of Male Entitlement
I almost flunked grade four because I couldn’t finish Tuck Everlasting. The book terrified me. The main character Winnie (later played by Alexis Bledel—I heard, I couldn’t watch the movie) was given the choice to live forever, or continue to age, live a human life of growth, love and loss, and, yes, eventually die. Winnie … Continue reading A Death Drive Toward Life? Or, Fun Fact: All My Planets Are In the 6th and 8th Houses
This is a post about rape. * * * * I keep in casual contact with a dude I dated a year ago. A few weeks ago he revealed that he was having a “terrible” week. He said he wanted to tell me what was going on with him because he wasn’t sure I would … Continue reading Dating Men is a Public Service That Men Don’t Deserve, But Women Do
“A man could, feasibly, sacrifice his coffee break raping a woman. That woman would then spend her entire life dealing with it. So would her daughters. So would theirs. This distribution of power is not acceptable.” -- Inga Muscio, Cunt: A Declaration of Independence I think about my mother’s mother. First married at 18 to … Continue reading How Many Generations Does It Take to Escape Abuse?
I remember walking through the mall with my dad (age 55) and he made some comment to me about a girl in short shorts. The girl must have been about 17 and yet my dad saw no problem with his leering at her legs (and making a sexual comment about them to me, his daughter … Continue reading Disposable Women: Some Thoughts on Bowie, My Dad, and Sexualizing Young Girls
I'm tired of comedy that relies on making some specific person look stupid, gross, weird, other. I'm tired of your edgy, alienating sarcasm. I've never much cared to have a friend that makes "good-natured" digs at me, that tries to get a laugh at my expense. My sister once told me she hates watching The … Continue reading I Want a Comedy of Love: Yearning for Femme Healing, For a Soft Place to Rest
...or "That’s Right, Even the Flu Does Not Get You A “Pass” on Sexism During the winter holidays, like many of us, I had fallen ill. Because my fridge most often contains only salad dressing, barbecue sauce, and cat food, I dragged my snotty, sleepy body out of bed and schlepped up to a cafe … Continue reading Ho, Ho, Ho… Misogyny is Always in Season